working with the First, Second and Third Stages of relationship

In This short video clip, john explain how he works with David Deida's seminal framework for relating


In this 3 minute video, John and Justin discuss a simple framework for understanding the 1st, 2nd and 3rd stages of relating and how to bring it into your relationship.  Highlights include:


  • How to Cultivate a "healthy" self centered, 1st stage that benefits you and the relationship

  • How to respond to a trigger or criticism in a way that serves the moment

  • Understanding the difference between making agreements in relationship and making art

  • How the Me, We and Divine are all possible in any relational moment