The Arc of Masculine Spiritual Development

I wrote this as the introduction to my book to be released this year. It captures everything in my heart I want every man to hear - from the guy in front of me at the check-out line, to the brother who pulls me aside at a workshop with tears streaming down his face, begging me to save his marriage. It’s honestly what I’ve needed to hear again and again throughout my life. This piece was published by Mind, Body, Green on April 3, 2018 in an article called “What Does Masculine Spiritual Development Look Like?” To me, it is simply an ode to my brothers.

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What is Yogic Sexuality?

"Why didn't someone teach me this years ago,?" is something I will often hear often in workshops I teach. I never quite know how to describe what I do. There is no elevator pitch.  So when Mind Body Green asked me to write an article on yogic sexuality, it felt good to sit down and articulate the work I try to embody and present. Much of this work was pioneered in the last 20 years by my teacher, David Deida, but most still have no idea what Yogic Sexuality is.  

I believe sexual yoga is the best-kept health and wellness secret on the planet. And it isn't just about sex! Part science, part mindfulness practice, part performance art, sexual yoga opens your capacity to be more available to your partner, to your own heart, to the world and to the divine (whatever you want to call the divine.) In this article featured in Mind Body Green on March 16, 2018, I dive deeply into what exactly yogic sexuality is and how it will change your life.

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What it Means to Become A Leader of Men

I wrote these 11 Precepts for my 2018 Embodied Men's Leadership Training program. They form the backbone of the unending work of men dedicated to conscious and embodied leadership. I suggest that you print them out and keep them someplace where you can see them so that you always know you can return to them if ever you feel off-track or out of balance.

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We are Always Evoking From our Partners

In this 4-minute video from the November 2017 The Art of Fearless Intimacy intensive in Berkeley, CA, John and Kendra demonstrate a practice for expressing pain and anger that will bring more connection and intimacy to your relationship.

The masculine and feminine are transmitting and evoking from each other all the time. If the feminine withholds the truth of her heart, the masculine response will be distance. If the masculine doesn't hold a trustworthy container, it will cause the feminine to hold her breath. If she doesn't reveal the pain of being dropped by her partner, she will evoke his distance.

Here you'll learn how to artfully use playful forms of expression, like the "sacred temper tantrum," to break this dynamic and draw something different and more alive from your partner.

You'll also learn:

  • how to keep the intimacy alive, even when you think you can't give any more

  • ways to "tune" the flavor of your energy like a guitar chord, so that your partner can hold and metabolize it

  • how to bring elements of playfulness to enliven any moment

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The 1000 Pin Pricks of Abdicated Leadership

Most men don't truly grasp the impact of poor leadership on a woman's body, nervous system and heart. Whether you are buckling under the stresses of modern life or playing the good guy, you starve her of the confident, trustable, playful masculine leadership she craves.

My teacher said it is like a "pin prick" every time we are unconscious or unfeeling to her heart. Added up over the years, it can turn gangrene. She wants to be led into a deeper experience of her own heart. And she wants you to lead her there.

Read more in this writing sample from the book I'll be releasing this fall: The Art of Masculine Leadership.

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