Being With The Feelings Underneath
In this video from the May 2019 Embodied Men's Leadership Intensive in Mount Shasta, John describes one way to access the feelings that might lie beneath a charged emotion, like anger.
The way to be with your feelings when you feel stuck or consumed by them is to be with them gently and consistently, in the same way a massage therapist might work a knot
There is an edge to expressing challenging emotions, so it is important to find that spot, that edge, and hang out, without overdoing it or blowing through it
Sometimes anger or rage is a gateway, or shield, to deeper emotions, which may feel difficult to access at first
If you stay with an edge long enough, you can begin to explore, with that same gentle touch, what is beneath your rage