One of the silent killers of devotional and inspired intimacy is the leakage of energy outside the container of the relationship. To truly understand how damaging this can be, let’s start with this assumption: our lovers feel everything we do. Maybe not enough to know exactly what you said to your best friend over lunch or to that acquaintance in a social media message, but they feel more than most people comprehend. They feel the leakage of energy. Everything we do—and I do mean everything—creates a ripple of energy that our intimate partners can feel.Read More
‘She who must be touchable’ has pleasure in her body and yearning in her heart. In this 7-minute video from The Art of Fearless Intimacy workshop in Boulder CO, John and Kendra Cunov explore ways that the feminine can inspire deep intimacy from her masculine partner through her own practice, beginning with this exploration: How much pleasure can you feel in your body right now?Read More
In this 3-minute video from the November 2017 Art of Fearless Intimacy intensive at FlowSpace in Emeryville, CA, John and Kendra describe how to fully attune to a feminine partner and give her what she needs in order to feel safe to reveal the emotion in her deepest heart and the pleasure in her body.Read More
In this 4-minute video from the November 2017 The Art of Fearless Intimacy intensive in Berkeley, CA, John and Kendra demonstrate a practice for expressing pain and anger that will bring more connection and intimacy to your relationship.
The masculine and feminine are transmitting and evoking from each other all the time. If the feminine withholds the truth of her heart, the masculine response will be distance. If the masculine doesn't hold a trustworthy container, it will cause the feminine to hold her breath. If she doesn't reveal the pain of being dropped by her partner, she will evoke his distance.
Here you'll learn how to artfully use playful forms of expression, like the "sacred temper tantrum," to break this dynamic and draw something different and more alive from your partner.Read More
Most men don't truly grasp the impact of poor leadership on a woman's body, nervous system and heart. Whether you are buckling under the stresses of modern life or playing the good guy, you starve her of the confident, trustable, playful masculine leadership she craves.
My teacher said it is like a "pin prick" every time we are unconscious or unfeeling to her heart. Added up over the years, it can turn gangrene. She wants to be led into a deeper experience of her own heart. And she wants you to lead her there.
Read more in this writing sample from the book I'll be releasing this fall: The Art of Masculine Leadership.Read More
In this 5 minute video, John and Guru Jagat dive into the types and ranges of energies a man is deeply attracted to.Read More
Virtually everyone wants more intimacy! Questions I am asked by men and women constantly are, “How can I connect with my woman/man ANYTIME?? How do we stay connected? And how can I create connection when we are distant or mad at each other?” And the truth is people over complicate this. What most don’t know is that there are some very simple awareness practices that can createRead More
Using jealousy as an opportunity to create intimacy, trust and turn on requires courage, creativity and a commitment to authenticity, but the benefits are worth it!
In this video, Men’s Coach and Sexual Intimacy Teacher John Wineland, explains how the moment when jealousy is running through our bodies is the precisely when we act, and how we canartfully work with it as it comes up.Read More