Posts in how to love well
It’s Time to Take Responsibility for the Sins of Other Men

I believe we have reached a time in romantic relationships where we, as men who endeavor to lead our relationships with more integrity, depth, and love than ever before, have a choice. We can continue to go on eschewing the sins of our fathers, our privilege (especially as white males), our numbness, our lack of embodied presence, our addictions to comfort, and our emotional indulgences. Or we can take 100% responsibility for what males, as by-and-large the controlling gender since the dawn of humanity, have allowed to take hold of on the planet.

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Protect Intimacy by Being Meticulous with Your Energy Around Others

One of the silent killers of devotional and inspired intimacy is the leakage of energy outside the container of the relationship. To truly understand how damaging this can be, let’s start with this assumption: our lovers feel everything we do. Maybe not enough to know exactly what you said to your best friend over lunch or to that acquaintance in a social media message, but they feel more than most people comprehend. They feel the leakage of energy. Everything we do—and I do mean everything—creates a ripple of energy that our intimate partners can feel.

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Bringing Pleasure to Inspire Deep Intimacy

‘She who must be touchable’ has pleasure in her body and yearning in her heart. In this 7-minute video from The Art of Fearless Intimacy workshop in Boulder CO, John and Kendra Cunov explore ways that the feminine can inspire deep intimacy from her masculine partner through her own practice, beginning with this exploration: How much pleasure can you feel in your body right now?

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