Men and women will often come to me and ask, in hundreds of various ways, "Why wasn’t he interested?" This could be: "Why wasn’t she inspired for a second date?" "Why did she all of a sudden go cold after 6 months?" "How come my husband has become nasty and uninterested in me sexually? He used to love to hang out; now he only wants to work." The length and form of the relationship is less important than the actual texture of the problem.
Read MoreIn this 3-minute video from the November 2017 Art of Fearless Intimacy intensive at FlowSpace in Emeryville, CA, John and Kendra describe how to fully attune to a feminine partner and give her what she needs in order to feel safe to reveal the emotion in her deepest heart and the pleasure in her body.
Read More"Why didn't someone teach me this years ago,?" is something I will often hear often in workshops I teach. I never quite know how to describe what I do. There is no elevator pitch. So when Mind Body Green asked me to write an article on yogic sexuality, it felt good to sit down and articulate the work I try to embody and present. Much of this work was pioneered in the last 20 years by my teacher, David Deida, but most still have no idea what Yogic Sexuality is.
I believe sexual yoga is the best-kept health and wellness secret on the planet. And it isn't just about sex! Part science, part mindfulness practice, part performance art, sexual yoga opens your capacity to be more available to your partner, to your own heart, to the world and to the divine (whatever you want to call the divine.) In this article featured in Mind Body Green on March 16, 2018, I dive deeply into what exactly yogic sexuality is and how it will change your life.
Read MoreIn this 4-minute video from the November 2017 The Art of Fearless Intimacy intensive in Berkeley, CA, John and Kendra demonstrate a practice for expressing pain and anger that will bring more connection and intimacy to your relationship.
The masculine and feminine are transmitting and evoking from each other all the time. If the feminine withholds the truth of her heart, the masculine response will be distance. If the masculine doesn't hold a trustworthy container, it will cause the feminine to hold her breath. If she doesn't reveal the pain of being dropped by her partner, she will evoke his distance.
Here you'll learn how to artfully use playful forms of expression, like the "sacred temper tantrum," to break this dynamic and draw something different and more alive from your partner.
Read MoreMost men don't truly grasp the impact of poor leadership on a woman's body, nervous system and heart. Whether you are buckling under the stresses of modern life or playing the good guy, you starve her of the confident, trustable, playful masculine leadership she craves.
My teacher said it is like a "pin prick" every time we are unconscious or unfeeling to her heart. Added up over the years, it can turn gangrene. She wants to be led into a deeper experience of her own heart. And she wants you to lead her there.
Read more in this writing sample from the book I'll be releasing this fall: The Art of Masculine Leadership.
Read MoreIn this short video from the October 2017 Embodied Men's Leadership Intensive in New York, John describes the basic steps to the essential masculine practice: relax your body, place your awareness into a person or situation, and wait for an impulse.
Read MoreIn this short video from the The Embodied Men's Intensive in New York, John discusses how to claim the masculine pole in any moment and create a natural sexual polarity that serves her, rather than react in irritation.
Read MoreAt the Embodied Men's Leadership Training, John address the masculine practice of structure and withholding ejaculation.
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