Posts in how to love well
How to Lead Your Relationship from the Essential Masculine

In this short video from the April 2018 Embodied Men's Weekend Intensive at Wolf Connection in Palmdale, CA, John describes a way to lead to your relationship by relaxing into the space of your Core Essential Masculine, which opens the possibility of freeing and inspiring your feminine partner.

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What the Fuck is Non-Verbal Consent?

In the wake of the #metoo movement, men are becoming more aware of the prevalence of trauma that has affected women throughout the world. Because of this, they are confused. On one hand they can intuit that women crave their boldness and confidence sexually. They have heard that a romantic partner wants to be taken, claimed and deeply ravished. But they are also painfully aware in today’s world that attempting that without her consent is immoral, abusive and downright illegal.

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Leading from the Core of your Feminine Essence

In this short video from the April 2018 Embodied Women's Weekend Intensive in Santa Monica, CA, John describes how to lead from your feminine heart: to "rest as love," which is what you are in your deepest essence, and then to feel what love could do to enliven any moment in yourself, your partner, and in any relationship.

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What is Really Going on When Somebody Ghosts You?

Men and women will often come to me and ask, in hundreds of various ways, "Why wasn’t he interested?" This could be: "Why wasn’t she inspired for a second date?" "Why did she all of a sudden go cold after 6 months?" "How come my husband has become nasty and uninterested in me sexually? He used to love to hang out; now he only wants to work." The length and form of the relationship is less important than the actual texture of the problem.

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The Arc of Masculine Spiritual Development

I wrote this as the introduction to my book to be released this year. It captures everything in my heart I want every man to hear - from the guy in front of me at the check-out line, to the brother who pulls me aside at a workshop with tears streaming down his face, begging me to save his marriage. It’s honestly what I’ve needed to hear again and again throughout my life. This piece was published by Mind, Body, Green on April 3, 2018 in an article called “What Does Masculine Spiritual Development Look Like?” To me, it is simply an ode to my brothers.

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