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Dialoguing and Tussling With Feminine Criticism

In this short video from the August 2018 Art of Fearless Intimacy weekend intensive in Boulder CO, John and Kendra explore two different approaches to resolving conflict in your relationship.

Bringing Pleasure to Inspire Deep Intimacy

‘She who must be touchable’ has pleasure in her body and yearning in her heart. In this 7-minute video from The Art of Fearless Intimacy workshop in Boulder CO, John and Kendra Cunov explore ways that the feminine can inspire deep intimacy from her masculine partner through her own practice, beginning with this exploration: How much pleasure can you feel in your body right now?

The Power of (Ridiculous) Generosity

Generosity is the foundational principle of spiritual intimacy and yet, the predominant problem in relationships today is the pernicious and often self-justified lack of unconditional giving. Most couples I see are downright stingy. We are stingy with our adoration, our praise, the perfect sexual gifting, our attention, our truths, our vulnerabilities, and most importantly, our worship. It is easy for us to open and love when our partners are pleasing; when they are giving us what we think we want. But true spiritual practice requires us to love when there is no guarantee of reciprocity, to trust when we are scared shitless to reveal our tender heart, and to lead when we are exhausted and disheartened.

Have You Met Your Shadow?

Part of being human is having shadows. These are the parts of us that we repress, deny or avoid; the parts that are, for example, needy, critical, vampiric, destructive, etc. In this 7-minute video from the Embodied Women’s Relationship Immersion Live Session in Santa Monica CA in April 2018, John describes his approach to shadow work, as inspired by the work of Carl Jung and Ken Wilbur.

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Amplifying Pleasure as a Way to Create What You Want in Bed

In this 4-minute video from the Embodied Women’s Weekend Intensive in Santa Monica in April 2018, John offers real-world examples of how to amplify what feels good in a sexual moment and artfully express your No without killing the love.

Leading from the Core of your Feminine Essence

In this short video from the April 2018 Embodied Women's Weekend Intensive in Santa Monica, CA, John describes how to lead from your feminine heart: to "rest as love," which is what you are in your deepest essence, and then to feel what love could do to enliven any moment in yourself, your partner, and in any relationship.

What is Really Going on When Somebody Ghosts You?

Men and women will often come to me and ask, in hundreds of various ways, "Why wasn’t he interested?" This could be: "Why wasn’t she inspired for a second date?" "Why did she all of a sudden go cold after 6 months?" "How come my husband has become nasty and uninterested in me sexually? He used to love to hang out; now he only wants to work." The length and form of the relationship is less important than the actual texture of the problem.

Attuning to Her Body

In this 3-minute video from the November 2017 Art of Fearless Intimacy intensive at FlowSpace in Emeryville, CA, John and Kendra describe how to fully attune to a feminine partner and give her what she needs in order to feel safe to reveal the emotion in her deepest heart and the pleasure in her body.

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