BLOG — John Wineland

Protect Intimacy by Being Meticulous with Your Energy Around Others

One of the silent killers of devotional and inspired intimacy is the leakage of energy outside the container of the relationship. To truly understand how damaging this can be, let’s start with this assumption: our lovers feel everything we do. Maybe not enough to know exactly what you said to your best friend over lunch or to that acquaintance in a social media message, but they feel more than most people comprehend. They feel the leakage of energy. Everything we do—and I do mean everything—creates a ripple of energy that our intimate partners can feel.

Dialoguing and Tussling With Feminine Criticism

In this short video from the August 2018 Art of Fearless Intimacy weekend intensive in Boulder CO, John and Kendra explore two different approaches to resolving conflict in your relationship.

Bringing Pleasure to Inspire Deep Intimacy

‘She who must be touchable’ has pleasure in her body and yearning in her heart. In this 7-minute video from The Art of Fearless Intimacy workshop in Boulder CO, John and Kendra Cunov explore ways that the feminine can inspire deep intimacy from her masculine partner through her own practice, beginning with this exploration: How much pleasure can you feel in your body right now?

The Power of (Ridiculous) Generosity

Generosity is the foundational principle of spiritual intimacy and yet, the predominant problem in relationships today is the pernicious and often self-justified lack of unconditional giving. Most couples I see are downright stingy. We are stingy with our adoration, our praise, the perfect sexual gifting, our attention, our truths, our vulnerabilities, and most importantly, our worship. It is easy for us to open and love when our partners are pleasing; when they are giving us what we think we want. But true spiritual practice requires us to love when there is no guarantee of reciprocity, to trust when we are scared shitless to reveal our tender heart, and to lead when we are exhausted and disheartened.

Have You Met Your Shadow?

Part of being human is having shadows. These are the parts of us that we repress, deny or avoid; the parts that are, for example, needy, critical, vampiric, destructive, etc. In this 7-minute video from the Embodied Women’s Relationship Immersion Live Session in Santa Monica CA in April 2018, John describes his approach to shadow work, as inspired by the work of Carl Jung and Ken Wilbur.

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Amplifying Pleasure as a Way to Create What You Want in Bed

In this 4-minute video from the Embodied Women’s Weekend Intensive in Santa Monica in April 2018, John offers real-world examples of how to amplify what feels good in a sexual moment and artfully express your No without killing the love.

Honoring a Man's Feminine by Understanding his Emotions

In this 8-minute video from the April 2018 Embodied Women’s Weekend Intensive, John describes ways in which women can celebrate the feminine in their masculine partners by encouraging them to reveal their deepest emotion in any moment. He also sheds light on why most men in modern society lose touch with their own feminine.

How to Lead Your Relationship from the Essential Masculine

In this short video from the April 2018 Embodied Men's Weekend Intensive at Wolf Connection in Palmdale, CA, John describes a way to lead to your relationship by relaxing into the space of your Core Essential Masculine, which opens the possibility of freeing and inspiring your feminine partner.

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