Do Not Weaponize the Terms "Masculine" and "Feminine"

In this video from the June 2020 Art of Spiritual Intimacy online weekend immersion, John speaks to the false beliefs a lot of people bring to this work — that they, or their partners, "should be more masculine" or "should be more feminine."

Rather than weaponize the terms "masculine" and "feminine" against yourself and others, focus instead on how you want to be uniquely expressed as a human being on the planet, and practice transmitting that through your body into the world.

You'll learn:

• Rather than focus on how you should or should not be, focus on where you want to be more fully expressed, aware, available and present; focus on where you want to strengthen, deepen, expand and grow - for example, "I want to be more fully expressed in the areas of..." "I want to be more aware of the habits of my body-mind," and "I want to be more available to my partner"

• It's easy to get caught up in the jargon of these practices and allow that to perpetuate the beliefs of "I'm not doing it right" or "I'm not doing enough"

• These practices are meant to help you bring awareness to the habits of your body-mind and align to what you want to transmit in your relationships and the world - for example, depth, light, richness, and presence

• You can choose to transmit whatever you want

• More often than not, the things that your partner is wanting from you, the world is wanting as well, so it can be a gift when your partner asks for a new transmission from you

• If you are wanting something more from your partner, do not weaponize the words "masculine" and "feminine" to direct them on how they should be; Instead, be specific about what you want to feel from them - for example, "I want to feel more of your heart."